It's easy to grief and build resilience...when you are in the Ivory Tower
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 20 December 2018
As other customers already wrote, the book is really irritating. I bought it in order to have some self-help on how to cope with grief and resilience, but I am really disappointed. To begin with, the author speaks from a privileged position. I knew this already, but I had no idea how clear this is spat into the reader's face since the beginning. In order: two kids, two brothers, a mother, a father, family friends, the best support ever in terms of specialists, "Mark and Priscilla", extreme and privileged financial security, the best advice from the best grief specialists of the country. I mean, really? I do understand that sorrow and grief is always subjective, but the book should have better spoken to the "average" person, namely a person who has no SUCH a BIG support network, a person who experiences financial problems and job unsecurities, a person who struggle every morning to wake up because , differently from her, it has no one helping to wake up. Even though the author reminds here and there that she is, indeed, privileged, it really does nothing to sympathize with the reader. There are some other examples in the book which are surely far mor real than her examples, but they are the exception. The norm, in this book, is this privileged golden cage of grief in which she is and from which it makes 10 million times easier compared to the normal people to find resilience. Ina even more irritating way, she reminds here and there again, that in the world there are poor people, people who suffer, people who experience inequality and unfairness from life...after few lines, all this is again forgotten, to give room, once again, to the best specialists ever, the best friends ever (how lucky is she?), the best boss ever (again, so lucky) who helped in coping. I do honestly not reccommend it if you buy it to find a way to cope with your grief and become more resilient. For instance, I had bought years ago, another book called "The obstacle is the way", and, even though this book shows several examples from famous people and how they coped with adversity, I really found it illuminating. And the reason is that I could mirror and sympathize with many of the stories. This book, on the contrary, is completely out of reality, at least the reality of many of us.
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